The other day a man walked up to me, stood very close and asked me if he could ask me a personal question. My usual response is full of words my Mum would hate to hear me use but I was curious since his gaze kept flicking to the top of my head. So I gave him permission and instead of the question I was expecting, he told me a fact. He said, with more surprise then I think the whole thing deserves, ‘you have grey hair’.
I have had grey hair for probably over a decade now. It started when I was doing my GCSEs – at least that’s when I remember someone pointing it out to me, for all I know if could have and probably did start before. It’s like a Rogue white strip but instead of it being a strip of my fringe hair, it’s in the middle (and now spreading).
I quite like it and people in school got used to it. But this man pointing it out to me made me realise just how strange it still seems to be for a woman my age to have grey hair. He then asked me if I was going to do something about it – he was perfectly polite and very, very curious. I told him no – I don’t want to dye my hair and apart from that what else can I do? But more than this I am quite in love with my greying hair.
It never used to be like this. I used to pull them out as soon as I spotted one. Actually I have had someone do that to me without my permission once too which was not all that great. I don’t know when things changed but change they did and now when I see one I stop fiddling with it. They are so shiny and they reflect sunlight really well. I don’t want to pull them out any more.
I know perfect hair is something all women to strive for (according partly to an industry which want to take all your money) but I love my hair the way it is. But as the grey hair increases are more and more people going to point them out to me, expect me to be terribly surprised because what they are telling me is brand new information, and promptly do something about it and colour it? Do I mind if people do that? To the first I expect it to be a resolute yes. This man was a strange but so many friends raise their eyebrows in surprise when I show my lack of concern at this obvious and very visual sign of age. As for the latter, no I don’t think I do. Which is brilliant isn’t it?