I am so excited to tell you all about The Night That Changed Everything by Laura Tait and Jimmy Rice especially since the two authors were kind enough to write a piece for me! How NOT To Get Over A Breakup is full of good advice which I haven’t always followed (I promise I don’t make any of those mistakes now…promise) and after the piece there is my review of the book (spoiler, I loved it) and details about the full blog tour which is happening to support the publication.
How NOT To Get Over A Breakup by Laura Tait and Jimmy Rice
From maths calculations to rules on chalkboards, The Night That Changed Everything is full theories and advice about getting over a breakup. So how do you do it? We don’t know – if we did we’d be writing self-help books rather than romantic comedies. However, we do know some things about how NOT to get over someone, some of which has been learnt the hard way…
STALK THEM ON FACEBOOK
We know, moving on is harder than it used to be. Where a clean break was once possible, now you’ve got all those social media accounts you can stalk. But don’t for one second think you’ll glean how well they’re coping from stalking them online. They won’t post themselves crying into their cornflakes – you’ll only see them trying to have fun, or at least carrying on as normal. Then you’ll convince yourself they never cared – and that’s not going to help you move on.
SWIPE THROUGH PHOTOS
Another thing that makes moving on harder is all those photos of ‘good times’ on your phone, so don’t sit there for hours with Adele on in the background swiping back through time. Instead, remember the photos you didn’t take: of him biting his toenails, or that moldy cup of tea you spotted on her nightstand the first time you stayed over.
There’s a strong chance you feel angry at them. Whether it’s for ending the relationship, or for giving you a reason to call it off with them – being unfaithful, unsupportive or generally just a bit of crap partner – you might want to cause them some sort of pain, humiliation or regret. But please don’t key their car, hack their facebook or sleep with their friends. That will make you the psycho ex. Don’t be the psycho ex. NO ONE SIDES WITH THE PSYCHO EX. Moving on with dignity will be the best revenge anyway.
So the last time you slept with them, you never knew it was the last time – and that’s a shame. So you might think one last cheeky little night of fun will just give you that sweet, meaningful piece of closure that will help you move on. Well, it won’t. It will probably either still feel so right that it will make you cry, or so wrong it will make you feel sick. Do you want to cry or feel sick?
TALK AND TALK AND TALK ABOUT YOUR EX
If you’re lucky, you’ll have one or two people who won’t mind listening. For a week – tops. After that, just … ssshhh. When Jodie from reception asks how you are, remember that ‘How are you?’ is the greatest rhetorical question of our time. Don’t tell Jodie about how you haven’t had any breakfast because your ex used to have coffee and toast with apricot jam ready for you when you got out there shower and now their gone. Jodie doesn’t care.
MAKE ANY IMPULSIVE CHANGES
So you’ve broken up with someone – your life as you know it has changed irrevocably. If you try carry on as normal, all you’ll be able to think about is that giant ex-shaped hole in your life, right? So it’s the perfect time to get that new pixie haircut or dragon tattoo, right? Wrong. Don’t do it. It might be the emotions talking, and if you regret it you’ll only give your self-confidence an even bigger knock. Wait three months and if you still want to do it, then go for it.
Thank you so much Laura and Jimmy! It’s all excellent advice, the kind of stuff you know you need to follow but just can’t always manage to do (I’m looking at you Facebook).
Now onto the book itself and what I thought of it.
Rebecca is the only girl she knows who didn’t cry at the end of Titanic. Ben is the only man he knows who did. Rebecca’s untidy but Ben doesn’t mind picking up her pieces. Ben is laid back by Rebecca keeps him on his toes. They’re a perfect match.
Nothing can come between them. Or so they think.
When a throwaway comment reveals a secret from the past, their love story is rewritten.
Can they recover from the night that changed everything? And how do you forgive when you can’t forget?
Architect Rebecca has known what she has wanted to do her whole life. She has a career she loves and is working on a project to restore an old cinema. On the other hand Ben works in HR, and doesn’t know what he wants to do but is pretty sure it isn’t HR. The two of them meet in a mutual friend, Jimie’s bar and start a relationship. It’s a clear case of opposite’s react for the both of them and everything is going really well until a secret is told and everything changes.
The story is narrated by both Rebecca and Ben in alternating chapters and I loved this. With romance novels I find it very easy to have a character I love and a character I don’t. In this case because I got to see inside both their heads I empathised and liked both Rebecca and Ben (even though I had a favourite). The two of them were so flawed it was brilliant: I don’t know if I would react if I was in her situation but I did think she overreacted and there were times when Ben was so sensitive that I wanted to punch him. Don’t get me wrong, these aren’t criticisms but reasons why I loved this book so much – neither Rebecca nor Ben were perfect and their imperfections were written so well.
Laura and Jimmy have such a wonderful, easy way of writing and I found it so hard to put the novel down (in my case I didn’t until it was finished). What’s more is that this book is full of humour like Jenny. She is the receptionist in Rebecca’s architect firm is by far one of the funniest characters I have come across in a book in ages.
This book is tender, funny, and very, very charming – it knocked my socks right off. One very important thing you need to know is that I am a commuter reader and this I read whenever I could, train journey or no. That’s how much I enjoyed the story of Rebecca and Ben and would urge you all to borrow or buy a copy. It’s on sale now and available from all good and evil retailers, and your local library.
Laura and Jimmy wrote the above piece for me as part of the blog tour for The Night That Changed Everything. I am not the only person taking part – have a look below at some of the other amazing people on this particularly brilliant train and make sure you check them out.
Disclaimer: I was given this book for free as part of the blog tour. My review is definitely my own and neither it nor my opinions haven’t been swayed by the free book swag.